The Only Thing We Can Control

The only thing we can control is our thinking. However, this is not easy, and in fact, this is the hardest thing we can ever do.

 

Before I was diagnosed with MS, I was not aware I was constantly thinking. And I did not know I had the power to choose my thoughts. This diagnosis woke me up to my inner life of thoughts and feelings. It made discover my power to notice my thoughts and choose them.

 

In his book “The Science of Getting Rich”, Wallace Wattles writes: “To think what you want to think is to think TRUTH, regardless of appearances. Every man has the natural and inherent power to think what he wants to think, but it requires far more effort to do so than it does to think the thoughts which are suggested by appearances. To think according to appearance is easy; to think truth regardless of appearances is laborious, and requires the expenditure of more power than any other work man is called upon to perform.”

 

It is so hard because we naturally think according to the emotions stored in our body. Emotions are the result of an experience. We are addicted to the emotions we memorized from a past experience. It helps us tremendously to control our thinking if we liberate these suppressed emotions that are keeping us stuck in the past.

 

In his book “Breaking the habit of being yourself”, Dr. Joe Dispenza writes: “Warning: when feelings become the means of thinking, or if we cannot think greater than how we feel, we can never change. To change is to think greater than how we feel. To change is to act greater than the familiar feelings of the memorized self.”

 

He further explains:In this moment, it seems impossible to think greater than how you feel – and that’s why it’s so hard to change”. The greatest addiction we can ever break is the addicting of being ourselves!

 

First we must become aware of our thoughts. We must notice the thoughts passing through our mind. We must learn that we are not those thoughts. Meditation is our greatest tool! We must learn to control our conscious thoughts.

 

We can choose to entertain only thoughts that make us feel good instead of thoughts that make us feel bad. When we take control of our conscious mind, our subconscious mind hears that we have taken control and starts believing what we tell ourselves.

 

Yogi Bhajan was so accurate when he said We live in a state of hypnosis”. This state of hypnosis makes it very hard to wake up. It is an ongoing journey for me.

 

Do you realize how powerful you are? 💜

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“The Voice in My Head”

In 2008, I came across an amazing book by Eckhart Tolle:

“A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose”.

This book changed my life!

 

I completely identified with the voice in my head.

I had not been aware I had a voice in my head.

I was totally unconscious.

I thought the voice in my head was me.

 

Eckhart Tolle clearly explains we are not the voice in our head.

We are the awareness behind that voice.

What a revelation!

Very gradually, I became more aware of that voice.

I became the observer of that voice.

Slowly, I began to develop some distance between the thoughts in my mind and the observer of those thoughts.

I started to lose my identification with that voice.

What a relief!

 

Who are you? 💜

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This Life is a Joy!

I share with you the table of content of this book: The Seven Pillars of Truth

 

1- This Instant Is Love

Love is always present.

The only thing missing is my awareness of Love’s presence.

I had no awareness of such a Love before I was diagnosed with MS.

Now, day by day, I am falling more in love with Life!

 

2- This Being Is Light

I am an infinite spiritual being having a finite human experience.

I am a vibration. I am a Soul.

I sure had forgotten about my Soul.

Now I am remembering WHO I am and WHOSE I am!

 

3- This World Is Consciousness

There is an Infinite Loving Intelligence guiding and orchestrating this whole Universe.

This Life is intelligent and loving!

The Universe has my back.

I was asleep.

Now I am waking up to such a powerful partner in my Life.

 

4- This Idea Is Substance

There are so private thoughts in this Universe.

Our thoughts become things.

They are as real as anything we see with our eyes.

I was not aware I was constantly talking to myself.

Now I stand guard at the portal of my mind, as Emerson says.

 

5- This Relationship Is Oneness

We are all one and the same.

We are much more alike than we are different.

On the surface we may seem different;

At our core we are the same.

I thought we were all in competition,

Now I know we are here to collaborate.

 

6- This Journey Is Surrender

Life is in charge. We don’t make Life happen.

We can give up our illusion of control and surrender to this loving presence.

I thought I had to control everything,

Now, day by day, I aim at surrendering to Life!

 

7- This Life Is Joy

When we were babies, we were Joy.

We might have forgotten.

I sure have.

Now I am in the process of remembering the simple JOY OF BEING!

 

May the Joy and Magic of the holidays infuse every moment of your Life 💖

 

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A Stoke of Insight!

I use to have no awareness of my mental activity.

But just as we breathe, we think. We never stop thinking.

Mental activity happens on its own, like breathing, or digestion, or the beat of our heart. It is always happening without our conscious participation.

We never stop these activities as long as we are alive.

 

I had a consistent negative self talk. I would mentally complain about anything and everything. I would judge myself, others and situations. I use to be completely trapped in my negative thinking.

 

A colleague at work had even given me the surname “grumpy”! This gives you an idea of how consistently I was in a bad mood. It was my identity. I was a bad mood.

 

In 2008, I came across Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s beautiful book: “My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey”. I started to realized that my thinking is the result of a brain function. It is not who I am!

 

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a neuroanatomist. She studied and researched the brain before she had her own brain disorder. One day, she suffered a stoke in the left hemisphere of her brain and the right side of her body became paralyzed. She was not able to walk, talk, read, write, understand language or recall any memory of her life. She lost all mental chatter as a result. She had found nirvana! She completely recovered and shared her amazing story.

 

The left hemisphere of our brain is linear. It deals with details and is concerned about the past and the future. It is the center of our language and the source of the voice in our head! It is where we derive our sense of identity and where we can think I AM. It is what keeps us separate from everyone and everything.

 

The right hemisphere of our brain thinks in pictures. It lives in the present moment and it can perceive everything as energy. It can perceive that we are all one and we are all united as brothers and sisters. We all have access to nirvana through our right hemisphere.

 

Both hemispheres are very different from one another. They are separated by the corpus callosum through which they communicate with one another. With our left hemisphere, we can choose to be a separate ego. Or we can choose with our right hemisphere to be the Life force power of the Universe connected to all. We can choose.

 

This made me realize that my understanding of the famous saying by the mathematician and philosopher René Descartes “I Think; Therefore, I am” turns out to be only part of the truth. Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor stopped thinking for some time because of the stoke but she never ceased to exist.

 

Are you an infinite energetic being or a separate ego? 💜

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“The Mind is Everything. What You Think You Become.” Buddha

The iceberg represents our mind. It is a great metaphor for our mind that is used by Dr. Sigmund Freud, neurologist and psychoanalyst, and Dr. Carl Gustav Jung, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst.

 

The top visible part of the iceberg is our conscious mind which is our surface outer life. Our conscious mind is our ego – our personality. It is our logical, reasoning, analytical and rational mind. Our personality is a fundamental part of us that can relate with the external world. It is also the part of us that wants to control everything and everyone. We need a strong and flexible personality to live a healthy life, to grow and to evolve. We need a strong and flexible conscious mind to interact with our unconscious mind. We need an ego, but we must not identity with our ego.

 

The bottom submerged part of the iceberg is our unconscious mind which is our deep inner life. All our memories and experiences create our beliefs, habits, behaviors and perceptions which all lie in our unconscious mind. Most of our mind, 95% of it, is unconscious and it governs most of our life.

 

I was trapped in my conscious mind: my ego. This is where my problem resided. I had no idea a whole universe existed outside the prison of my conscious mind. I did not know I had an inner life! I did not know I am governed by my unconscious mind. MS invited me to open up to the vast world in me and all around me. MS invited me to set myself free from the prison of my conscious mind and discover my inner world. What a gift!

 

The wise part of us resides in our unconscious mind, which is part of the Great Mind or Infinite Intelligence or the Universe. We are connected to Infinite Intelligence through our intuition. In our unconscious mind, we have access to the information and inspiration from the wisdom of the ages, my teacher Nicolas Bornemisza, a Jungian analyst, explains in his book “Guérir grâce à nos images intérieures”. Carl Gustav Jung says it is our nature to make the unconscious conscious. “If we try to ignore the inner world, as most of us do, the unconscious will try to find its way into our lives through pathology: our psychosomatic symptoms, compulsions, depressions, and neurosis,” writes Robert A. Johnson, a Jungian analyst, in his book “Inner Work”.

 

Between our conscious mind and our unconscious mind, we find our subconscious mind. It serves as a buffer zone between our more surface conscious mind and the deeper unconscious part of our mind. In our unconscious mind, we find the collective unconscious. It links every one of us and in that way, we are all connected. It is also our access to the past, present and future. “The distinction between past, present and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion”, said Albert Einstein.

 

The important thing to understand is that there are many parts to the mind and we need all of them. The conscious, the subconscious, the collective unconscious, the unconscious and the Great Mind are all one. We need to recognize that all these minds, and everyone’s mind, are also connected with one another and united as one mind.

 

To simplify, let us view the mind as being made up of two parts: the conscious mind and the unconscious mind. When we are in balance, these minds communicate with one another and are in harmony. For example, our intuition can speak to our conscious mind during the day. We can also receive messages in our night dreams from our unconscious mind. There is no separation between these minds.

 

The conscious and unconscious minds have a two-way communication. When we start changing our conscious mind, the change will automatically get communicated to our unconscious mind. When we start changing our unconscious mind, the change will automatically get communicated to our conscious mind.

 

Are you aware of your inner life? Are aware your unconscious mind is controlling most of your life? 💜

 

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Release Stuck Emotions with Writing!

When we are feeling an emotion, it is only a part of us that is feeling that emotion.

We are much MORE THAN an emotion.

 

However, sometimes it can feel like every part of us is feeling that emotion. Because the emotion could be really overwhelming it can feel like we are only the emotion.

 

During my holistic bodywork training we also learned a technic to release an emotion when we are really stuck and feel overwhelmed by this emotion.

The emotion can feel like a prison and nothing else seems to exists.

It can become our identity.

 

When we feel an emotion is bigger than us, we can practice the following exercise to get out of the prison that the emotion represents.

 

First we set a time everyday at the same time to listen to the emotion.

We choose the same time everyday because our UNCONSCIOUS MIND likes habits.

We pick a time when we know we won’t be disturbed.

 

Secondly, we write whatever comes to mind without censoring ourselves.

We let the emotion completely free to express itself. We listen to what the emotion has to say.

If the emotion arises during the day, outside the scheduled time, we tell it to wait for the designated time.

We honour our commitment by showing up for that appointment.

 

We do this listening and writing exercise for at least 20 minutes, up to 40 minutes, everyday.

We don’t read our writings; we just burn or destroy the paper once we are done and thank our UNCONSCIOUS MIND.

We can do this exercise for two weeks or for as long we feel overwhelmed by this emotion.

This is going to help express and release the imprisoning emotion.

 

Set yourself free from the past by liberating limiting emotions from your body. 💜

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Hoʻoponopono

Liberate trapped e-motions

Emotions hold the key to life as Emotions are life in us.

 

We really need to release trapped emotions from the body.

They lead to disease.

 

We need to cultivate life giving emotions.

They lead to life and health!

 

There is a simple and powerful way to clean our subconscious mind.

It is a Hawaiian practice.

It is an inner cleaning process.

It is a forgiveness practice.

It helps release trapped emotions from our subconscious mind.

 

We simply repeat in our mind:

 

I AM SORRY

PLEASE FORGIVE ME

THANK YOU

I LOVE YOU

 

We imagine we are taking all our concerns to the divine within for healing.

 

I highly recommend watching this beautiful movie

https://www.e-motionthemovie.com/

 

Release what needs to be released!

Cultivate what you want! 💜

 

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Liberate Limiting Emotions from the Body

Unexpressed emotions get stored in our body.

Feelings then become the means of thinking.

We start to think equal to those limited emotions.

It can seem impossible to think greater than how we feel.

These emotions become our identity. We become addicted to them!

 

When I started liberating my body by practicing the movements of this holistic bodywork approach, a lot of emotions were liberated!

https://mouninabounaaly.com/what-is-holistic-bodywork/

 

Sometimes I would massage my feet and I would start laughing uncontrollably.

But nothing funny was actually happening.

All that was happening was me rolling a tennis ball under my foot.

 

Another time I would massage my buttocks and my hips.

The following days I would experience a lot of anger.

But nothing in my current reality was upsetting.

 

Another time still I would lie on my back on the floor with a cushion under my heart. Tears would start running down my face.

But nothing sad was happening to justify this sadness.

 

I realized that all those years of not expressing my emotions resulted in them being stored is my muscles.

 

My body had been living in the past, frozen in time.

 

Liberating all those stuck limiting emotions felt like my body was coming back in the present moment.

 

I found my body back.

 

I began to think differently as those limiting emotions were released.

It felt very liberating.

 

Changing our thinking is what allows us to change a health condition.

Liberating our body from old limiting emotions helps tremendously to think differently.

 

Traumatic limited emotions we feel repeatedly can trigger a disease like MS over time.

 

We have the limited emotions associated with survival and stress. These are doubt, fear, anger, hate, insecurity, worry, anxiety, impatience, judgment, resentment, frustration, competition, hostility, sadness, guilt, shame, depression and lust.

 

Elevated emotions we feel repeatedly can also trigger health over time.

 

These are gratitude, love, joy, care, compassion, inspiration, appreciation, peace, wholeness, trust, kindness, presence and empowerment.

 

It is crucial we find a way to release limiting emotions so it becomes easier to think greater than how we feel.

 

We can then start thinking empowering thoughts and feeling elevated emotions.

 

The new science of epigenetics tells us we are not victims of our genes.

It is our inner and outer environment that signals which gene will be express.

We can control our inner environment of thoughts and feelings.

We can choose to live in a life giving inner environment.

In doing so we activate health enhancing genes and we stop signaling genes for disease.

 

Please refer the book “Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One” by Dr Joe Dispenza.

 

How is your inner environment?

You can spend your day loving and praising yourself. You can be grateful for every breath given to you! 💜

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No internet connection yesterday! What a mystery?

Emotional Intelligence

Emotions are just energy in motion.

They last less than 90 seconds according to Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor. The time it takes for the hormones released by our endocrine system to wash through our body and leave!

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I grew up believing expressing my emotions was a sign of weakness.

I would not allow myself to express any anger. I was a good little.

We all heard the limiting beliefs that good girls don’t get mad and boys don’t cry!

I would not allow myself to feel any sadness.

Nothing could get to me. I would never cry.

I would never feel any joy, at least not when I was sober.

I believed there was no reason for joy anyway in this life.

 

Emotions are life in us. Our emotions flow through us.

When we observe a baby, we can see her experiencing a rainbow of emotions in a very short amount of time. One minute she is so angry. The next minute she is so sad. The next minute she is overjoyed. She is alive!

 

This is how we were before we got conditioned out of this natural way of being.

Our family, our culture and our society teaches us that emotions are not allowed!

If we look at monks or shamans, we see them expressing their emotions freely just like a child!

 

Emotions are energy in motion, just like the name implies: e-motion.

Not good, not bad: just energy!

All emotions just pass through us if we allow them.

If we don’t allow them to go through us, if we don’t express them, they will get stored in our body.

This will lower our vibration.

Repeatedly, in the long run, this can trigger an illness like MS!

Then our body will start to live in the past.

We will become the emotion. The emotion will become our identity.

 

Allowing our emotions to flow through us is an act of self-love.

Allowing Life in us is loving ourselves unconditionally.

 

What is your relationship with Life in you?

What are your beliefs regarding your emotions? 💜

 

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The Relaxation Response

The autonomic nervous system is part of the nervous system. It is responsible for activating either the sympathetic nervous system or the parasympathetic nervous system.

 

I sure did not know about this parasympathetic nervous system before I was diagnosed with MS.

I was all about action and stress.

Relaxation was no a part of my world.

I needed illegal drugs or alcohol to relax. They were a part of my daily routine!

 

The stress response is activated by the sympathetic nervous system when a threat or a danger is perceived. It is a life saving response when we are in a situation of danger and we need to either fight or flight.

 

In a healthy body, the stress goes down when the danger passes.

The problem arises when we are constantly in a state of stress. Imbalance begins when we are constantly activating the sympathetic nervous system.

 

We know today that most disease are stress related! All symptoms are made worst when stress is present!

 

We can activate the stress response by thought alone! We can use our imagination to terrorize ourselves as if a tiger was about to eat us. In reality there is no such threat!

 

To create balance in a healthy body, we must activate the opposite mechanism: the relaxation response. The parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for the relaxation response.

 

The parasympathetic nervous system is called the rest, digest and repair mode. It is important to note that it is only in this state that the body does what it does best: heal itself!

 

“In such a relaxed state, the body can get busy doing what it does best – making effort to heal itself”, Lissa Rankin, M.D., explains in her book “Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself”.

 

This was popularized by Herbert Benson is his famous book from the seventies “The relaxation response”. Dr. Benson teaches that we can elicit the relaxation response by practicing meditation. We can mentally repeat a mantra, a word, a sound, a phrase or a prayer. We do this while passively disregarding everyday thoughts that inevitably come to mind. We also disregard emotions and sensations. We practice with an attitude of non-judgment. We return to our repetition as soon as we notice we got distracted.

 

This can be done while doing some physical exercise, while doing the dishes, while driving or taking a shower. This can be done while doing any mundane task. We are always thinking. Every moment is an opportunity to control our mind!

 

It’s not just meditation that shuts off the stress response and calms the body. In her book “Mind Over Medicine”, Dr. Lissa Rankin gives a whole list of other ways to relax! “Creative expression, sexual release, being with people you love, spending time with your spiritual community, doing work that feeds your soul, and other relaxing activities such as laughter, playing with pets, journaling, prayer, napping, yoga, getting a massage, reading, singing, playing a musical instrument, gardening, cooking, tai chi, going for a walk, taking a hot bath, and enjoying nature may also activate your parasympathetic nervous system and allow the body to return to a state of rest so it can go about the business of self-repair.”

 

Also a breathing exercise with the exhalation longer than the inhalation switches us to the parasympathetic system. We inhale for the count of 3. Then we exhale for the count of 6. We do this at least 3 times.

 

There are so many ways to promotes a state of relaxation. The importance of relaxation can never be overstated! But health requires balance between stress and relaxation!

 

Not all Stress is not bad. It depends on how we react to a situation. There is positive stress. It is a natural response or instinct to an alarm signal so we can be alert to what is happening. We can deal with the danger by reorganizing ourselves.

 

Stress can become negative if we don’t deal with the threat. If we endure a situation for a long time. If we don’t do anything about it. Enduring leads to burnout.

 

Life also requires balance. Life and health are so similar!

 

How balanced do you feel you are? 💜

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